Family law court actions, such as
divorce, custody, visitation, child support and post-judgment
enforcement procedures are among the most emotional events that may
occur in your life. To make things even more difficult, you will
undoubtedly be asked to set aside your emotions and attempt to make a
decision as to what is in your best interests after careful thought and
reflection. These actions are also unique because rarely are two sets of
circumstances so similar that the same result can be predicted. Thus,
input from family and friends who were involved in “similar” situations
is not necessarily helpful in shaping the decisions you have to make.
There is no breakup of an emotional relationship without stress.
Different people handle it in different ways, but everyone who goes
through a divorce or related matter suffers a great deal of stress.
When we suffer stress we naturally try to alleviate it in some way,
usually by seeking the advice and consolation of our family, our friends
and our lawyer. We need to make one recommendation right away: seek and
follow advice from your attorney only. Not from your family. Not from
your friends. They can support you and console you, but it is unfair to
them and to you to turn to them for advice. Advice and counsel can come
from your lawyer only. If you are seeking the guidance of other
counselors, whether religious or psychological, we will talk about the
different roles each of us will play. Please keep in mind that your
family and friends are no more able to advise you in your divorce than
they are able to treat your appendicitis.
All family law matters involve loss, and
no loss is without pain. People who suffer a painful loss experience
grief. Grief is not here today and gone tomorrow. The grieving process
takes months and even years for some. It affects our judgment and our
energy. A person going through a divorce is as much entitled to grieve
the loss of his or her spouse as a person whose spouse has died. Do not
burn up a lot of energy telling yourself that you should not feel the
way you feel.
Persons experiencing a divorce or the
loss of a relationship often experience anger, but the legal process is
primarily to terminate a relationship with someone you have once cared
very much about. You may still care very much about the person and may
one day care about him or her even more than you do now. These facts
make our work complicated. We must spend the time necessary to make the
right decisions during this difficult time. Attorney at Law Shawn L. Perry has the experience and expertise to assist you with the
following family law matters:
- Parenting Time
- Child Support
- Spousal Support
- Property Division
- Qualified and Eligible Domestic Relations Orders
- Collaborative Law
- Appellate Advocacy
- Post Judgment Modifications
- Change of Domicile
- Grandparent Rights
Shawn L. Perry has:
- Tried divorce cases involving complex marital estates including
the valuation and division of medical practices, insurance agencies and
- Handled custody and parenting time disputes involving children with special needs.
- Presented oral arguments before the Michigan Appellate Courts on
issues of first impression, including the Uniform Fraudulent Transfers
Act, and the constitutionality of Michigan’s Dower statute.